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Don't Let Them Take Away Your Kink

Felice Newman,

photo - Kinky Gurl. Beauty Bound. Red Rose Stories. These are the names of some of the kinky websites that have shut themselves down in response to Attorney General Alberto Gonzales' recent announcement that he intends to specifically target "bestiality, urination, defecation, as well as sadistic and masochistic behavior" in pursuing new obscenity prosecutions.

According to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, the Department of Justice began recruiting in late July for a new anti-obscenity squad to pursue prosecutions. Well, the Attorney General shouldn't have any trouble at all staffing his squad now. Thanks to his zeal for kinky porn, there's a pool of newly unemployed experts he can draw from.

BDSM-oriented websites are self-censoring in order to avoid legal trouble. Owners of said, "The recent news that the U.S. Attorney General is specifically targeting smaller, privately run BDSM websites – arresting their owners, confiscating their computers, assessing large fines, etc. – has led us to the decision to shut down Kinky Gurl." Popular author and sex educator Midori posted a notice on her closed site (, saying that the current political climate has made it "nearly impossible for many artists to publish beautiful erotic work."

When we start silencing ourselves, that's really scary. As lesbians, we have a long history of self-censorship – from the years when homosexuality was "the love that dare not speak its name," right up to the lesbian sex wars of the 1980s.

Out of those sex wars came On Our Backs magazine. The magazine was a lifesaver for many of us whose sexual curiosities had been corralled by the pressures of political fashion in which lesbian feminism admonished us not to imitate men in their objectification of women. Since On Our Backs appeared nearly 20 years ago, new technology has paved the way for greater and easier access to explicit images of lesbians having sex – including images of lesbians engaging in bondage, SM, and other behaviors the Attorney General lists in his announcement, along with some I'm sure he didn't think of. The Internet made possible lesbian pay porn, live sex chat rooms, and online sources for erotic books, videos, DVDs, and sex toys. Our listserv discussion groups gave us forums where we can explore our sexual interests as a community, with members participating from far-flung locations.

If you love kink, if you love to tie up your best girl, paddle her butt to a shiny pink, cover her breasts with clothespins, thread play-piercings through her nipples...uh, what was I saying? Oh yeah, anyway, if you are a card-carrying member of Kinky Girl Nation, you will experience Midori's shutting down Beauty Bound like a punch in the gut (and not a consensual one). If your tastes run more to vanilla sex, it may be a bit of a stretch for you to understand why any of this matters. Let me state the obvious: The Attorney General doesn't like what you do when you turn off the light and spread your legs, either.

What can you do? Support the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, an organization committed to the rights of consenting adults who practice forms of alternative sexual expression. NCSF is primarily focused on the rights of consenting adults in the SM-leather-fetish, swing, and polyamory communities, who often face discrimination because of their sexual expression. Send them some money.

Then pay a visit to some very queer pay porn sites that are still in business. If you enjoy viewing explicit images of queer sex – including BDSM and other expressions of kink – check out Darkplay and Transsexual-man, two of my favorite stops on the information highway.

Darkplay is the flagship site of CyberDyke ("The Erotic Network for Lesbians Only"), which hosts a network of pay sites featuring explicit photos, illustrations, videos, and stories. Transsexual-man features hot, hot erotic images of Buck, a very hot (did I already use that word?) transman. Buck is not shy about putting his assets on display – including his testosterone-enhanced clitoris. He's also very kinky.

Don't let them take way your right to pleasure – including the pleasure of watching dykes engaging in your favorite turn-ons.

Felice Newman is a founding publisher of Cleis Press and the author of The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide for All of Us. She can be reached at Visit her at

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