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Speaking of Undressing


Simon Sheppard, QSyndicate.com

"We're born naked, and the rest is drag," points out supermodel RuPaul. But even the glossiest drag queen strips down now and again. And whoever's undressing, the doffing of duds can be a powerful aphrodisiac. "There's nothing hotter to me than watching a man take his clothes off, especially one I haven't seen naked before," says one guy. "It's very, very exciting to watch him gradually reveal his body."

It's long been a truism that seeing someone balls-out naked is somehow less dick-delighting than watching the partially nude get nuder in a carnal game of hide-and-seek. Lounging around on a clothes-optional beach where everybody's everything is flopping in the breeze, this theory goes, isn't as arousing as ogling a boy who's oh-so-slowly stripping off his Calvins.

(Not everyone, though, agrees that leaving a sexual secret to be revealed is a spark for desire. "I love dick," says one dick-lover. "I could look at it all day, and anything that keeps it hidden is an obstacle. Just let me see it right now. Every detail, please.")

Even the locker room at the gym offers the pleasures of gradual exposure, though in an offhand way. But most of us, at least on occasion, like the sexy ceremony of a real striptease. Though adult theaters still feature live shows, now the Web can offer the pleasures of watching a hot guy take his pants off – online. One Internet porn aficionado says, "The real-time sex shows that I find hottest are those where the model starts out fully dressed and takes his time showing me what he's got. It's a lot less fun for me when I tune in and some boy's already naked. Of course, if things are too leisurely, it gets frustrating. I am, after all, paying to watch some guy ultimately masturbate and come."

Meanwhile, back in our own bedrooms, amateurs' clothes keep coming off. Some guys get off on exhibitionistically undressing for their partners, while others enjoy being their eager audience. "I met this guy online," says a fervent voyeur, "whose thing was stripping down to a skimpy thong. He came over, and I sat on the sofa while he put on a show. He was so hard the thong couldn't hold him."

And then there's the fun of mutual disrobing. Starting out with kissing, then unbuttoning and unbuckling, peeling off your partner's shirt, pulling down his pants – that sort of thing can be a lot hotter than just a businesslike strip-down before jumping into bed. It need not even lead to complete nudity; tugging down a guy's jeans to midthigh exposes the naughty bits in one long, arousing moment.

Undressing is a matter of vulnerability, of revealing what's mostly kept private. Whenever a guy reveals his body to somebody else, for whatever reason, it's potentially a moment of dick-hardening desire. A stripper at an adult theater is everybody's whore. Your lover tenderly taking off his trousers is giving himself entirely to you. And that surfer changing on the beach, his cock barely concealed beneath a skimpy towel, may not even be thinking about how sexy he is.

For some of us, taking off our clothes is a matter of getting past shame and shyness. For others, it's a try-and-stop-me festival of exhibitionistic delights. But whether it's a first step to fucking or just a prelude to a dip in the pool, dropping your drawers is something to be savored. So go on, buddy – pull down those Joe Boxers, and let's see what you've got!

Simon Sheppard is the author of Kinkorama: Dispatches from the Front Lines of Perversion


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