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Speaking of Deepthroating


Simon Sheppard, QSyndicate.com

When it comes to cocksucking, few other phrases have the appeal of "deep throat." It's thought of as the ultimate in oral sex. But is it?

Well, maybe. Unless a cocksucker's unusually adept, a shallower approach may actually make for more fun for the suckee, since deep-throating makes it harder to give the shaft spine-tingling licks and sucks. Things can look different from the bottom's perspective, though. "It's a thrill to take all of a guy all the way down my throat," says one oral sex fan. "In fact, if I'm having problems deep-throating extra-large equipment, it makes me feel inadequate."

Like so much else in life, being able to take a schlong all the way down to the tonsils is a matter of both nature and nurture. Some guys have fussier gag reflexes than others, true, and some are born with smaller mouths. But in any case there are ways to improve technique.

It's pretty obvious that position matters. Things go smoothest when the curve of the throat accommodates the curve of the cock. Probably the best, but oddest, position is lying down on your back with your head hanging over the side of the bed. It gets your throat in a nicely straight line, but also gets the blood rushing to your head and makes everything look, well, upside down. A less acrobatic possibility is to get your guy to lie back, straddle him facing his feet, and then bend over and scarf up his meat. Come to think of it, the good old 69 is a pleasant variation on this theme; no wonder it's so timelessly popular. Whatever your contortions, keep in mind you want the thing to slide down your throat, not ram your tonsils.

And what about the dreaded gag reflex? I asked one of the best cocksuckers I know, figuring he'd long ago mastered his reactions, and was surprised to hear his answer. "Of course I sometimes start to gag," he said, "and when I do I just back off for a bit. There's also the problem of running out of air. Thanks to coaching..., I've learned how to breathe the penis, if that makes any sense."

Breathing slowly and evenly can also help forestall gagging. In fact, a relaxed approach works best. With practice, it's possible to keep those throat muscles relaxed. "Desire helps,too," my friend added. "It's funny how the right mental attitude just opens up my throat."

(Oh, a quick word from Mom here: though oral sex is a pretty inefficient way to transmit HIV, deep-throating unsheathed cocks may add to the risk, as heavy-duty cocksucking can injure the lining of the throat. And there are other STDs to consider, including - rather surprisingly - gonorrhea.)

Since practice makes perfect, a little homework never hurts. Novice deep-throaters can practice on dildos, and even slowly sliding a couple of fingers way back there can train the aspiring suckmeister to accommodate oral visitors without gagging.

Then, bring on those boys! But hey, if you do gag while chugging down the old flesh sausage, not to worry. We're only human, right? Next time, you might want to find someone with a smaller tool. Or you might want to give up deep-throating. Or you might want to get down to practicing, one way or another, till you can proudly wear one of those T-shirts that read, "Let go of my ears - I know what I'm doing."

Simon Sheppard is the author of Kinkorama: Dispatches from the Front Lines of Perversion



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